For many people, warmer weather brings a sense of renewal and life – especially after going through such a long and uncertain winter. Now is the time to look at your life and connections in a new light and consider ways to recreate and refresh your relationship.
While many people will be doing some “spring cleaning”, it’s also the perfect time to think about refreshing other areas of your most significant relationship.
The past year has been difficult for everyone. You’ve likely gone through more with your partner than ever before. Whether you were quarantined together, both working at home, one of you lost your job, or perhaps lost a loved one, things haven’t been easy.
Or, perhaps you just feel like you’ve lost that “spark”. That can be unnerving, but it doesn’t mean your relationship is doomed.
What it does mean, however, is that you might need to refresh your connection.
With that in mind, let’s look at a few ways to recreate and refresh your relationship this spring, so you can find that spark again and feel closer than ever.
Few Ways to Refresh and Renew Your Relationship
Go On a Date
It’s been difficult for anyone to go on a proper date over the last year. So many things have been closed down, and social distancing has become the norm.
Depending on where you live, however, certain things might be opening up. Don’t be afraid to take advantage of it and actually date your partner. Do something different from what you might normally do. Get dressed up. Go somewhere new. Date like you did in the early days of your relationship.
Even if you aren’t able to get out, go on a date at home! It can actually be a lot of fun, and it allows you both to get creative. You could make dinner together, have a “theme” night, or even eat outside under the stars.
Sometimes, you just need to be reminded of the spark that used to be there. Don’t be afraid to talk about the “old times”, whether that means key points in your relationship or when you first got together.
When you remind each other of those good times, you will realize that things can feel different. Your relationship going a bit stale doesn’t mean you don’t love your partner. But, you might need to be reminded of some of the reasons you fell in love in the first place.
One of the best ways to recreate your relationship is to be more spontaneous. That doesn’t mean you need to come up with grand gestures or do things just to be “different”. You know your partner – likely better than anyone. Think of things that would make their day, and find little ways to add spontaneity and novelty.
This could include anything from planning a weekend getaway to making a special dinner for them when they get home. It could even include leaving a love note in their jacket pocket for them to find later or buying them a small gift as a surprise.
It’s so easy, especially in a long-term relationship, to fall into familiar routines. While those routines are important and provide stability and comfort, it never hurts to shake things up from time to time. Adding little moments of spontaneity can make a big difference in how exciting your relationship feels.
Actively Pursue Each Other
So many people make the mistake of letting go of “courtship” once they commit. But, you can consistently refresh your relationship by choosing to actively pursue each other, even after you say “I do”.
Continue to go on dates, touch each other, kiss each other, and find a healthy balance between everyday life and the intimacy of an invigorated relationship. When you’re able to do that, your relationship won’t feel stale, and no matter what circumstances surround you, your spark will always remain.
Try Couples Counseling
Your relationship’s health is vital to your happiness. There are times when partners need support to keep things fresh and productive. Consider couples counseling to keep you and your partner on the same page and growing forward together. Please reach out for a consultation when you’re ready.